I happen to have a few extra moments this morning during the girls morning nap because I have two sickly little boys. Cohen brought home a nasty cough from school and then kindly gave it to Lucas. Jesse and I both have just a touch of it but thankfully I only have a slightly sore throat. Let’s all just pray the girls don’t get it!
I have had LOADS of my friends have babies recently and all of our conversations revolve around the same things:
– I am dying of sleep deprivation!!
– I need to lose this baby weight!!
– How in the world do I juggle it all?!
Let’s start with the sleep deprivation.
When the girls were about 6wks old, I really thought I was going to go crazy. I was up every few hours at night and just wasn’t able to take naps during the day…I mean, I do have 2 toddlers running around too. I remember one night saying to Jesse, “I swear, if they don’t start giving me like 4hrs at night I might lose my mind.” And I was all-out serious. It was a rough time those early weeks. I just had to find what worked best for the girls to sleep and go with it. The evenings are just pretty rough in this house, the girls want to cluster feed from about 630-830 and then they go down until their last feed at 10/1030. For the most part, the girls now have their longest stretch from about 11pm-5am. Now, that is most of the time. Last night they needed a few ounces at about 230am but then slept until 7am. I’ll have to do a post on their daily schedules which I highly contribute to their great sleeping habits as it’s worked for all my kiddos.
Oh the baby weight.
Why in the hell didn’t anyone warn any of us about bodies post baby. I am one of the unfortunate ones who’s body takes about 9 months to get back into a decent figure after babies, but I do have friends (who I slightly hate) who can bounce their bodies back after only a few months. Okay so maybe I hate them a little more than slightly, but it’s out of pure jealousy. lol.
I have tried to be very diligent on what I eat, using myfitnesspal & lowering my intake of white flour products….notice I didn’t say NO carbs….just lowering white flour people.
The girls will be 3 months old next week and I’m still at 145lbs – that’s 15lbs more than what I was pre-pregnancy and 25lbs more than where I’d like to be. **Please note: Some of you may think that is SO tiny, but you have to remember that I’m 4’11.5” so 145lbs is quite the weight on my small frame.** Thankfully I’m realistic this go around. I know I don’t have a lot of time so I just encourage myself to work out 3 times a week – whether it’s a workout dvd or walking Cohen to and from school. Trust me, if this is your first go around with having a kid – it will come off much easier than the next few times. Just keep at it and you’ll get there. Squishy belly & all.
And lastly – handling life, kids, house & hubby.
This one is tough for me. I am pretty OCD about how I like my house and I’ve had to let SO much of it go. There’s no way I can always have a tidy house with a 3yr old, 2yr old & newborn twins oh, AND a dog that sheds as if that’s her sole purpose in life.
We are quite blessed to have a cleaning lady come to our home (paid for by our dear friends as our baby gift) about once a month. She does all the stuff I just don’t have the time to get to it – bathrooms, dusting, windows & anything else that just needs done. It’s a HUGE relief for me. HUGE.
As for everything else, we have a routine and we stick to it. I feel bad when people invite us places but frankly if I want to stay sane I need to stick to our routine. Every moment is accounted for in this house whether it’s feeding the girl/boys, cleaning house, nap time, spending time w/the kids or just showering or hanging with the hubs.
I am also extremely blessed to have a husband who goes above and beyond. That man makes me go out and do things so I get a break from the kids. He’s always offering help, asking how he can make my job easier & brings me flowers almost weekly when he goes to the grocery. Yeah. I’d be a basket case if he weren’t around.
So pretty much, I think I need to write a book on all the stuff no one tells you about after you have kids. I think that’s the hardest part. Not realizing how much work really goes into this parenting thing/raising a family thing.
Is there anything else you’d add to this list?