Just so I’m clear. I don’t let my kids “scream” themselves to sleep. Quite the opposite. I allow them to fuss and cry for a few minutes, sometimes 10. I turn off the monitor because it makes me sad. BUT if I hear my babies crying from downstairs, you better believe I go up there to see what’s wrong & try to fix it. If that means that they need to fall asleep on my chest while I rock them – so be it. It’s just not the “norm”. Do I end up with kids in my bed on occasion? You better believe it. Our oldest still crawls in with us occasionally bc he just wants to snuggle.
I’m just saying, this is what has worked for us with all our kids. Do we have nights where they need to sleep in a swing / in our bed bc they are just not feeling their crib/bed – yup..and that’s okay. Choose what’s best for your family, even if that means picking and choosing various methods that work for your family.
For the last few months I have been *very* blessed to have twins who literally sleep through the entire night. I’m talking, they go down between 6/7pm, get up only for a diaper change and bottle at 9/10pm and sleep until 7/8am. I know. All you tired Moms with babies who still wake up can hate me. I would hate me too if I still had a little one who was waking up at night. But here’s the thing, these babies are formula fed. My boys didn’t technically sleep through the entire night like this until they were 6/7months old (and they switched to formula). I’m totally contribute it to the formula. It just doesn’t digest as quickly as breastmilk. And for your Mom’s that give your babies formula and they STILL wake up – it could just be your kid. (I know, boo to that right?!)
For me, another thing I contribute to them sleeping all night is the routine I’ve kept them on. I follow the babywise routine and it has worked wonders for all my kids. I know there is a HUGE controversy on the book, but frankly I don’t care about all that crap. The whole ‘crying it out’ thing – yes I let my kids cry, as long as it’s just that, “fussy i’m tired” cry, not the “i’m freaking out & i need you” cry. There’s a difference. Maybe not to all my readers, but I can tell a difference.
Anyway, my point is, when I started training them to sleep longer stretches, when they’d wake up at 3am a lot of times they were only drinking maybe an ounce of formula and then falling back asleep – HUGE cue to let me know that they weren’t waking for hunger, they were just waking up! So, I started giving them the paci and putting them back down. Eventually they just learned to wake up in the mornings when they were truly hungry.
I have lots of friends who ask me for advice on getting their kids to sleep and I always say to give them their night bottle, then a dream feed before you go to bed & if they wake up in the middle of the night for a feed – give it to them, but if they don’t take a full feed then they weren’t truly hungry and next time just put them back to bed. They may fuss for a bit, but that’s their only form of communication right now so as long as they aren’t screaming or in distress, they’ll be fine.
Do I sound totally harsh?! Probably to some, but hey, I’m the one sleeping through the night so I can handle it.
As far as their naps, they are fantastic nappers as well! They are going about 3.5-4.5hrs between bottles during the day now. They are up from about 1.5-2hrs and then sleep the other part. I’m quite blessed for sure.
Well, as I write this post my girls are not napping well today. I’m chalking it up to the 4 month sleep regression (since that’s their adjusted age from being born early) Go figure right?? Oh well, we all have ‘off’ days.
Do your kids sleep through the night?
If they do, when did they start?
If they don’t, do you hate me? bc if you do, I totally understand & still love you.