No one can even prepare you for what’s to come in this new life you will live. Yes, people will give you all the tips/tricks for colds, sleepless nights or fussy babies/toddlers/teens – but no one tells you about the changes you will go through as a woman in this new role.
The moment when you first hold that baby/child in your arms, your whole being just can’t wrap the idea around in your head, to even make sense how you are now at this special place in your life. A place that you had envisioned before & thought you grasped the idea of it – yet you really knew nothing of the sort.
No one tells you that you may / may not feel an immediate bond with your new child. It’s such an emotional thing to even admit if it happens but the thing is, love always grows and so will that bond.
No one tells you about the life you imagined will sometimes feel mundane. Doing the same things over – and over – and over. Cooking – cleaning – feeding – diapering – driving – mediating, feeling as though your job goes unnoticed, but in reality, your job IS the most important of all & it never goes unnoticed.
No one tells you that although they may not always show it in ways that you want, your children & husband love you more than anything else in the entire world. You are the glue that holds everyone together. You are the heart & soul of the family.
No one tells you about the ache that sits in your heart. Not an ache from hurt/anger – but an ache that is always lingering because there is so much love to be had in this role of “Mother”.
No one tells you how much you will truly give of yourself for your family. Sharing the last bit of your dessert, shopping for your kids instead of new clothes for yourself, going the long way home so your kids can see the ducks in the pond, making your kids favorite dinner instead of the healthy meal you had in mind – always giving & only asking for a hug in return – and it is ALWAYS enough.
Although everyone told me that being a Mom would be the hardest & best job in the world, I could never fully understand it until I became one.
To all you Moms, thank you & know that you are valued beyond measure.